Lazy

This world is stupid and I don’t want to be a part of it anymore. Luckily for the people who are stupid enough to love me, my greatest weakness is what keeps me here. I’m too lazy to change my situation. I am the personification of inaction.

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Happy Place

Twilight makes me happy. Truly. In a world where not a lot of other things do, I’ll hang on to that.

I have a sort of Pavlovian response to it. It can make me joyful or serene. I swim in the emotions it evokes. Meaning is imbued in layer upon layer. How can that possibly be something I’d want to walk away from?

So there.

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Yuck

I’m gonna share this dream I had so you can see how my brain likes to fuck with me. Other people get nice sex dreams and this is the shit I get? No fair!

So~ my friend (who I will not name to spare her the secondhand embarassment) and I were out researching Twilight filming locations (like we did in real life for our awesome guide – check that out) and ended up at one of the high schools. Then this guy I knew when I went to high school was there. This guy was considered by most of the female population to be “the hottest guy in school” – our ‘Edward’, if you will. I was never attracted to him though even though I could appreciate the prettiness of his face (and body, in hindsight). He came right up to me and was talking to me only inches from my face. It’s been years since I’ve seen him but I vaguely remember his voice, which sounds nothing like PFach, although that’s how my subconscious portrayed it today. Weird.  He kept SURREPTITIOUSLY trying to look down my shirt, so I just gave him the go ahead to ogle away. Which he did. Then all of a sudden, he was kissing me. Then mouth fucking me. Not in the good way, like in Pucked. In a way that was like he was trying to get my tongue to orgasm. Like one might use their tongue against a clit. Like fast and flicky and… gyraty. I tried to maintain kissing him like a normal person and hoping he’d follow suit, but no such luck. Now, I haven’t kissed a lot of guys personally, but I have a feeling people don’t usually do this. It was unpleasant, to say the least. His hand also kept drifting down and… grazing… things. I kept smacking it away. Pity, cause the dream might have taken an enjoyable turn in that case.  I remember thinking he was sucking all the moisture out and my mouth was going dry and I felt like I was going to choke. And that’s when I woke up.  

WTF, brain? Analyze THAT. 

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Thoughts of a girl, alone in a hotel room, and bored

This wallpaper is mesmerizing. 

I’m too short to see out of the peep hole.

I’m drinking partially metled ice cubes because I am just that lazy.

Why are Star Wars fans just called “Star Wars fans”? Why is there no cool nickname?

Do birds need to chirp all damn day?

I hear a lawnmower. Do people downtown have lawns?

Why did anyone ever think Matt Dillon was good looking? I hate his face.

I wonder how many people die alone in hotel rooms every year.

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WIPs

My, how things have changed for me!

When I first started reading fic, I obsessively had to finish everything I started and I felt very apprehensive in regards to reading work in progress. How would I be able to sleep at night if I didn’t know the conclusion?! I know many people are like that. And there is nothing wrong with feeling that way.  It’s just not the case for me anymore.

I have started and never gone back to sooooo many stories – WIPs AND completed. It doesn’t bother me anymore. What thrills me about reading and writing is the little tidbits – words that are strung together in a perfect harmonious marriage.
Like anyone, I love a good storyline. It’s a great testament to an author’s talent when they can successfully reach the end of their tale, having kept me interested the whole time. But it’s icing on the cake for me, at this point. It’s actually quite rare that I love a story, beginning to end. And I am so behind and have so much to read that I lose interest very quickly. What keeps me going is the meat. The bones. The sentences that make it all up that stop me in my tracks and make me think ‘wow’. I’m all about process right now.

That’s why I can read and thoroughly enjoy WIPs and incomplete stories. By skipping those, readers could be missing out on a world of greatness. That is their call. It’s a balance between potentially stumbling across those great moments versus having the whole picture. I would personally just rather forfeit the possibility of the latter in the hopes of finding even more gems.  And I also have a pretty creative imagination. If something I am wrapped up in just stops abruptly, I can continue it in my own head. Sometimes, I do that with completed works anyway if they take a turn I dislike.

What is NOT okay is flaming authors of WIPs or telling them they should just withhold everything until it’s completed. As someone who has dabbled with the writing side of things (and has also never completed anything), I know that it’s fun to communicate with readers during the process. They can be a great source of inspiration and encouragement. They can change the trajectory of your story. It wouldn’t even be what it ends up as without that feedback. And there are readers like me (I CAN’T be the only one who feels this way) who are totally okay with half-done and are very happy to take whatever is put out there. No complaints.

It is the REVIEWERS who leave this sort of crap that have the problem, not the authors. Hitting that complete button shouldn’t be the measuring stick of an author’s talent. There are some immensely talented writers I’ve come across who, like me, have many unfinished stories. And there are some who have a long list of fics to their name that I flounce because their writing doesn’t grab me. It does take talent to be able to write a well-rounded, whole story. But it’s not the only kind of talent there is in writing.

It’s very simple. If you have a problem with incomplete work, DON’T READ IT UNTIL IT’S DONE! And if you choose to chance it, keep your big girl panties on. If the story is abandoned or takes months or years between updates, remember that was a choice you made. Appreciate what you get.

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(originally posted to Eat. Sleep. Breathe. Twilight.)

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I’m Reading

It has been an exceptionally long time since I had anything to say about fic. It’s actually been a long time since I’ve even read any at all. I’ve only picked up a few chapters here and there (to total about 5 – not including beta stuff) in the last 6 months. But~ I’m back! I think…

Here’s what I’m reading (and would recommend), in case you are interested:

The Monster by thimbles – subject matter that NEEDS to be talked about, and handled in such a tender way

In the Pines by Soleil2 – a whodunit-type story that sucks you right in

SoCal by Krazyk85 – yummy 3sum like only K can do

And, of course, my girl HB‘s story she that lets me practice my red pen skillz on, The Tide Is High.

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Before I went on my unintentional hiatus, I was also reading A Measure of Grace by Saritadreaming. It’s really good too but I’m so behind. It’s still posting, so I’m gonna get back to that one.

Should be noted that these are all WIPs. If you don’t do unfinished, mark em down for when they are complete.

~

For anyone that still cares, I haven’t thrown in the towel on my drabble. I’m just stuck. I make no promises either way, but it’s still up there in my head somewhere.

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Lost and Found

a Playlist by kmah88~

Awhile ago (probably like 6 months or more), a few friends and I were talking about music and playlists and how they affect our emotions and blah blah blah. This was when I was on my whole Oprah kick and inspiration and all that crap was one of my main focuses. I took on the personal challenge of making a playlist that summed up how I feel about life and where I am, spiritually speaking. At first, it was just going to be a list of “inspirational music” – that stuff that pumps you up when you need a kick, but as with most things, it turned into a more self-reflective thing. (I did actually make that playlist too, but it’s only narrowed down to 121 songs ATM.)

I was speaking to another friend the other day and was saying how I think a lot of people think I’m still where I was a few years ago. Truth is, I feel like I’ve grown a little (even though just saying that makes me feel like I have a lot of maturing left to do) and “I’m okay”.

I’ve battled depression for many years and all the dark thoughts that come along with that, and even with the bad days that are still in abundance, I feel like I’m much better equipped at dealing with them and have learned a little about how to appreciate good things in life. I have even experienced momentary feelings of actual joy here and there. That’s a plus. But the best part about that is that I KNOW those moments are fleeting and I have learned to just take them in, experience them, fully feel them, and because I know they come and go, I don’t fear anymore that they are short-lived. They will fall away again but I know they will come back. And equally, the bad feelings will do the same. So, there’s that.

And here it is~

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the LOST AND FOUND playlist
In this specific order, it sort of shows the evolution of my emotions through the past few years. Starts out sort of dark, lost, apathetic, etc. and gets a little more hopeful and maybe a little less self-absorbed/more looking to something deeper as it goes. (I’m already fully aware how lame it is, trying to put it into words, so don’t laugh at me to much.)

1. Elliott Smith – Between the Bars

“With the things you could do
You won’t but you might
The potential you’ll be
That you’ll never see
The promises you’ll only make”

Not living up to potential, empty, broken promises, ignoring it all and pushing it all off until ‘later’…. Yeah. Story of my life.

2. Bobby Long – A Passing Tale

“I’m lost to this world and I don’t know why…
…And I’ve kinda hit the floor
I’m reaching for something more”

Those lyrics specifically sum up how lost I feel sometimes, as Bobby tends to do (even if he didn’t mean it that way).

3. Massive Attack (feat. Elizabeth Fraser) – Teardrop

“You’re stumbling a little
You’re stumbling a little”

For this one, it’s more about the music itself. The pulse, like a heartbeat on life support…

4. Muse – Save Me

“Hold me ’cause I’m sure I’m hated
Promises, they are overrated
Wait just a while
While I’m drowning in denial”

Sometimes you want someone to bring you out of yourself and save you.

5. Evanescence – Bring Me to Life

“I’ve been sleeping a thousand years it seems
Got to open my eyes to everything
Without thought, without voice, without a soul
Don’t let me die here
There must be something more
Bring me to life
…Save me from the nothing I’ve become”

This song has been my anthem. I felt that I was dead inside and often describe a good chunk of my life as like being in an emotional coma.

6. Queen – The Show Must Go On

“The show must go on, yeah
Inside my heart is breaking
My makeup may be flaking
But my smile still stays on”

The lyrics say a lot, but so does the music. It’s like an apathetic look at continuing to live through pain. You go on because you have to.

7. Sia – Chandelier

“Help me, I’m holding on for dear life
Won’t look down, won’t open my eyes
Keep my glass full until morning light
‘Cause I’m just holding on for tonight”

I think that’s pretty self-explanatory…

8. Muse – Butterflies & Hurricanes

“Don’t let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived…
…Your time is now”

Fight or die, basically.

9. India.Arie – Get It Together

“And now your chest burns and your back aches
From fifteen years of holding the pain
And now you only have yourself to blame
If you continue to live this way”

This one IS one of those inspirational songs. It’s uplifting but also a kick in the ass.

10. Avril Lavigne – Everybody Hurts

“Everybody hurts some days
It’s okay to be afraid
Everybody hurts
Everybody screams
Everybody feels this way
And it’s okay
It’s okay”

I used to say that it didn’t make me feel better to say “I’m not the only one” ~ just because someone else might feel the same as I do, it doesn’t lessen MY pain… but I’ve come to realize it DOES help that someone can understand.

11. Jimmy Eat World – The Middle

“Live right now
Yeah, just be yourself
It doesn’t matter if it’s good enough for someone else”

This has been one of my biggest struggles ~ learning not to worry about what other people think and knowing that, as I am right now, I’m enough. Also, the ride isn’t over yet…

12. Christina Perri – Human

“I bleed when I fall down
I’m only human
And I crash and I break down”

It’s rather comforting to accept being human. Perfection is not attainable or expected.

13. R. Kelly – The Storm Is Over

“I can see the sunshine
Somewhere beyond the clouds”

Sometimes, a little cheese is okay. 😉
I would like to think – I HOPE – the darkest parts are behind me.

14. Kelly Clarkson – Stronger

“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”

…if you let it.
This one is more about the music. It makes me wanna dance.

15. Frightened Rabbit – Not Miserable

“I’m not miserable now
No one knows
No one knows
I’m not miserable”

The first time I heard this song, I just thought ‘yes’. (Thanks, Jenn!)   I’m okay.

16. Johnny Mercer (feat. The Pied Pipers) – Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive

“Accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
Latch on to the affirmative”

Words to live by. I believe more strongly in the law of attraction than anything else.

17. New Radicals – You Get What You Give

“Don’t give up
You’ve got a reason to live”

Another uplifting one with another message I agree with ~ you only get out of life what you put into it.

18. Whitney Houston – I Didn’t Know My Own Strength

“Found hope in my heart
I found the light to light my way out of the dark
Found all that I need here inside of me
Oh, I thought I’d never find my way
I thought I’d never lift that weight
I thought I would break
I didn’t know my own strength
And I crashed down and I tumbled
But I did not crumble
I got through all the pain
I didn’t know my own strength”

Another self-explanatory one.

19. Weezer (feat. Hayley Williams) – Rainbow Connection

“I’ve heard it too many times to ignore it
It’s something that I’m supposed to be
Someday we’ll find it
The rainbow connection
The lovers, the dreamers, and me”

Tapping into that part of me that recognizes something deeper, even if I can’t quite grasp what it is yet.

20. Iz Kamakawiwo’ole – Somewhere Over the Rainbow

“And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true”

This version specifically because he sings it in such a wistful, carefree way. Like he’s already there rather than waiting for it.

Here’s a link to the full YouTube playlist.

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A Guy’s Take on Vampires

CJ said this about vampires on his podcast. I LMAO’ed.

“Every show that I watch with werewolves in it is fairly popular. You know, not as friggin’ explosively popular as fucking sexy vampires doing it. Like, you’ll never escape The Vampire Diaries, True Blood, Twilight. I mean, a lot of people that like those other two shows don’t like Twilight, but the crazy is just the same. …I don’t know what it is – vampires are inherently sexy and I don’t know why. I understand why girls would find that sexy, but guys – I’m just like ‘there is fangs in her mouth!’ And if you’re not worried about those, that’s fine. I am. …I’m worried about girls with braces. And you’re going full on with fangs. …You like to live dangerously, I see.”

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Check out CJ’s podcast on iTunes (M.L.R – Not A Real Comedian) or on his website. Dude is pretty funny.

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ZZZZZZZZ

So~ I’ve been back home for 4 days now. Two of them, I completely slept through. Literally. The day we got home, I was asleep for over 24 hours. The next day, Hubby and I went up to Orillia to Casino Rama because he had won free tickets to see Wanda Sykes. I really like her but I wasn’t pleased to be travelling again so soon. It was worth it though. Then I needed to finish recuperation. I think I’m good now. I can walk. That’s a good sign. (I seriously think I did some permanent damage to my feet and ankles.)

I want to start on updating the blog. I knew it was unrealistic to say I’d keep up with it while on the trip. I just didn’t want to say so because saying so makes it inevitable. There was still a teeny tiny chance. But we spent the entire day every day running around and only had a few hours each night at the hotel. Hubby needed the computer first to just edit and update his pictures. (Check them out on Facebook, if we’re friends ~ you can see them in my albums too.) By the time I got my turn, there was just not enough time to even narrow down my choices, let alone edit them and write anything about the day. I did get the first 4 days up though. That’s better than last time and Hong Kong!

Even without blogging, I still only got about 3-4 hours of sleep a night. I was up really early every day. The latest I slept in was 8 o’clock, I think, and that was only one time.

But~ now that I’m home and have all the time in the world, I can’t start quite yet. I have an Etsy order I have to complete and ship out in the next two days. When that is out of the way, I will get to work. I don’t want to forget the little details like I did last time.

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one of my favourite sakura pictures from my favourite area in Kyoto

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Day 8: Akihabara Again

The original plan for today was to go to the Studio Ghibli museum, but…. D_:  Yeah, so it was a “free day”. Instead, we decided to go to Akihabara to let Hubby do whatever he wanted and I would just follow him around for a change.

We had another late start and didn’t leave the hotel until 11. It was raining. Again. And COLD! My weather app said it was 4 degrees “but felt like -1”. Yikes. Last night, we had thought we would get up early and go to Meiji shrine first thing in the morning but I was too tired, sore, and didn’t want all that walking in the cold and rain. So, off to Akiba~

We picked up a few snacks at Lawson and then got on the train. Akihabara is only 6 stops from Tamachi on the Yamanote Line. Super easy. And with our JR passes, free.

Hubby wanted to mail some postcards and he had looked up that there was a post office at the UDX buildings but wasn’t sure which one exactly. I had a general idea and got us to the right area and then popped into one of the buildings and asked a security guard. In Japanese. Hubby was super impressed with me. I was embarrassed. The guy lead us to the door in his super professional way and pointed across the street to the other building. (Crossfield was the one we needed.)

We mailed the postcards and then went to the second floor coffee shop for a hot drink and to eat our “breakfast”.

From there, we went straight to Don Quixote – which we call Donki. (It’s pronounced Donki Hote – ドンキホーテ – in Japanese.) At this point, I can’t remember if I wrote about Donki already, but for those that don’t know or forgot, it’s kind of hard to explain… It’s a chain of stores. They sell…. everything? And mostly inexpensive. It’s not like a dollar store… I heard someone equate it to Walmart once but that seems very inaccurate to me! You don’t WANT to go to Walmart. You want to go to Donki.

The Akihabara location is unique. It’s, like, 7 floors or something. That’s not unusal. Most large stores in the urban Tokyo area (or other Japanese cities) need to go up several floors to have room. But the Akiba Donki has an unusual selection of merchandise, including cosplay and… sex toys. They are also the homebase for the girl idol supergroup AKB48. If you don’t know who they are, I’m not gonna get into it. You can Google it. They have a stage on the 8th floor, I think, where they hold weekly performances for those hardcore, dedicated (…creepy?) fans. They also have a small shop for merchandise on the 4th floor, directly in front of the tax-free gaijin counter (where Hubby dealt with our shit while I sat on the floor, to the dismay of many employees – haha). The 4th floor is also where another @Home Maid Café location is. Right around the corner from the AKB48 shop. We didn’t go in this time – we went last time and like the other locations better.

We covered every single floor. I was looking for a few things in particular. If you remember back to my post about the things I wanted to buy, I used a picture of something called Katemete-pon. I originally saw this product on J-List and bought some – because it’s awesome. It’s basically a powder use stir into hot oil when you’re done cooking with it which solidifies it so that you can just pop it out of the pan and into your organic recycling. It makes disposing of it super easy. And not harmful to the environment.

I couldn’t find it on my own but, being the super smart, extra prepared person that I am, I had a copy of that picture on my phone, so I showed it to someone that worked there. She actually called another floor on the phone and someone came up to meet us to take us to where it was. Japan has some insane levels of customer service! But I also felt bad for being such a nuisance. They didn’t speak English really, but gave me a box and made me understand that it wasn’t the same brand but very similar. Through my very-limited, hybrid Japanese, I asked what it was called. It’s Katemeru Tempuru. Interesting. I bought 4 boxes because that’s all they had. I think there are 5 pouches in each box. Hopefully that will last me for awhile.

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After we left Donki, we walked down the main street, Chuo dori, for a bit, taking pictures of the colourful buildings. Then we decided we were ready to eat and, since in Akiba, of course we went to a maid café. Since we had already had a questionable experience, we wanted to stick to something we knew would be fun. We went to the main @Home location. That had been our best experience last time.

I’m not sure how much detail I went into about maid cafés before… There are so many of them, but the majority of them are in Akihabara. The two biggest chains are @Home and MaiDreamin’ (the one we went to yesterday). I mentioned that @Home has a location inside Donki, but at their main, original location, there are 3 separate cafés in one building (4F, 6F & 7F). Honestly, they are all practically the same, but to the discerning eye, there are slight differences… I guess. If you were a hardcore maid café goer, I assume you’d have your favourite maids and go to whatever location they were working at. Whatever.

So, you go inside this derelict looking building, take a rickety elevator up to whichever floor you choose (we picked 4F today) and enter a whole other world. It’s bright, it’s happy, it’s loud. And cute. Like cute walked in and threw up everywhere. To me, it’s the personification of genki.

It’s usually very busy inside the maid cafés (at least when we go) and you have to wait in line for a bit before you’re seated. You walk in the door and join a line, and then when your turn comes, you’re greeted by a super cheerful maid and taken to your table. They bring you a very busy looking menu full of cute food and drinks.

They gave us the one English speaking maid on duty. Her name was Berry and she was really kawaii.

Usually, most people would order a ‘set meal’ which comes with a drink (on which your maid will cast a cuteness spell – audience participation necessary), a plate of food (on which your maid will draw with condiments, something cute like an animal and some cheerful words and hearts and smileys) and a photo with a maid of your choice. (Beware. There are tiers of maids though. Some are more… coveted than others and cost more.) The entire menu is pretty expensive, but the food is actually quite tasty. Combine that with the overall visit, and it’s kind of worth it.

It’s a bizarre, somewhat unnerving experience but also a lot of fun and I recommend doing it at least once. Or as often as possible, like we do. I don’t pretend to fully understand it and there is a certain amount of ick-factor to the whole ordeal (at least 75% of the customers are men), but… I just go with it.

It’s interesting to watch the customers who are obviously hardcore regulars pull out their photo albums and leaf through page after page after page of pictures of them with the various maids.

Throughout the day, at designated times, all the maids will assemble on the small stage and perform a song and dance. We weren’t there to see one this time, but we did watch several maids play one-on-one games with a few customers. (I’ve seen that crocodile dentist game come out more than once.)

You aren’t allowed to take pictures inside the cafés (since you have to pay for photos) but I snuck some anyway.

After our visit, we went next door to the Akiba Zone building. This was new to us. They built it sometime within the last 5 years. It’s multiple floors of anime/game culture collectibles and merchandise. Hubby shopped around for quite awhile and, after a few minutes, I found a quiet corner to sit and catch up on writing my notes.

I had to use the restroom and was afraid. The buildings themselves are bare bones looking structures, quite dingy in some places. And I hate using public restrooms. But I was very pleasantly surprised. Maybe because it’s a newer building or maybe because I just underestimated Japan’s public facilities. It was the nicest restroom I think I’d ever been in (you know, outside of a super fancy restaurant). It was clean and spacious and decorated in dark wood finishes and, best of all, had the super awesome Japanese toilets. I didn’t even want to go back out into the store. I just wanted to hang out in there.

I wanted to mention I did actually buy something. Hubby is all about buying cheap figures but I came across a CD which I felt obligated to purchase. It’s just a disc of 4 insert songs (songs sung by one character that usually don’t even appear within the anime). And it’s from an anime I don’t even watch and, really, have only “heard of it”. But, the character’s name is the same as mine. And it was only 500 yen. *shrug*

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We went back outside and continued walking around for awhile. Hubby was looking for another Mandarake location and I wanted to go to Gatchapon Kaikan to get a few souvenirs.

Gachapon Kaikan is kind of a must for first time Akihabara visitors. It’s rows and rows of gachapon machines. It’s a cool place to visit at least once, and you can get little trinkety type things to take home with you for a lot cheaper than in stores. (There are a lot of videos on YouTube about the store, if you’re interested.) We had done our one visit in 2010, but I had been looking at sushi keychains in the stores and they were insanely expensive. I ended up finding a few here for my friends and I also bought myself one tiny figure. Again, only 500 yen. It was Makoto from Kanon. We also bought a knock-off “cup girl“.

Sidenote: This same building is also the location for the very first ever maid café – Cure Maid. It’s on the 6F but we’ve never been up.

Hubby ended up buying several figures throughout our trip. I couldn’t tell you which stores he bought them at or how much he paid, but he was very pleased with himself for finding them so much cheaper than buying them online or back home.

We walked back down Chuo dori, having made a complete circle (up some back streets to get to Mandarake and Gachapon Kaikan) and went into one of the many Sofmap store buildings. This is another large department store, similar to Yodabashi and Bikku, but they seem to be highly condensed in Akiba and contain more otaku-targeted merchandise.

By the time we got out of there, it was dark and we were hungry again. Time for ramen! (This was ramen #8 and you can read all about it in the ramen post.) Hubby got a bowl and I got gyoza AND KOROKKE (potato croquettes)! My absolute favourites. They aren’t on the menu at ramen restaurants often so I get them whenever I see them. They were gooooood.

After that, we made our way back to the station and headed back to the hotel.

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I noticed this sign on the train platform. I’ve seen them before but never paid attention. I think they are in all stations. They show where all the exits are located in reference to the train car #’s. Well, that’s helpful!

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